Children need clear limits and rules, but they also need a chance to learn how to make decisions.
For example, you can set a definite bedtime hour, but even very young children can choose their own pajamas. With older children, let them choose what to do after school, as long as you provide the choices. For example, you could say, "Would you like to play outside or read a book?" Later, you could ask them, "Are you glad you made that choice? Would you do something different next time?"
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