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 What is Trauma?

 

​What is trauma?

We all respond to injury in different ways. Trauma is the emotional response when an injury overwhelms us.

 
​The injury could be physical, sexual, or emotional. Some of the most common traumatic events in the lives of women and men include:

  • physical assault
  • sexual assault, including childhood sexual abuse
  • verbal assault
  • being threatened with physical or sexual assault
  • witnessing violence against others
  • long-term neglect in childhood.

How can trauma affect people?

Trauma can affect the way you feel.


You might experience some or all of the following symptoms:
  • too much emotion
  • too little or no emotion
  • depression
  • feeling hopeless, helpless, worthless
  • shame, fear '
  • anger, rage
  • grief, sadness
  • anxiety, panic attacks.

Trauma can affect your ability to have satisfying relationships with others.


You might experience some of the following:
  • not knowing how to trust
  • difficulty being close to people
  • problems in sexual relationships
  • fear of others
  • isolation and withdrawal
  • not recognizing when you are in a dangerous situation
  • not knowing how to give and take in relationships
  • repeatedly searching for someone to rescue you.

Trauma can affect your body.


You might experience:
  • body memories and flashbacks (feeling as if you were reliving the traumatic experience. This can include seeing images, hearing voices or sounds, smelling odours, as well unexplained tastes and physical sensations in your body.)
  • sleep problems, including nightmares
  • physical complaints (e.g., headaches, nausea, stomach aches, pelvic pain, stomach/digestive problems) for which no medical cause can be identified
  • physical exhaustion.

Trauma can affect the way you think.


You may have:
  • problems with attention and concentration
  • confused thinking
  • thoughts that get in the way of daily activities
  • memory problems.

Trauma can affect the way you behave.


It could lead you to:
  • inflict self-injury (e.g., cutting, burning)
  • engage in addictive behaviours such as self-starvation, binge-eating, drug/alcohol misuse
  • constantly look for sexual relationships, or avoid sexual relationships
  • be abusive towards others.

People who experience repeated trauma tend to suffer more severe symptoms. Also, the earlier the trauma, the more severe the symptoms are likely to be.Can people "forget" that they experienced trauma, and later remember?

Yes. Research has shown that some people "forget" that they were abused or traumatized. Often, when something is too traumatic, it is forgotten but not lost from memory. This is especially so when the source of the trauma is another person. Sometimes, the traumatic event is later remembered. When this happens, the person has often experienced something that reminds her or him of the original traumatic event(s).

For many people who receive mental health services, trauma remains unrecognized as an important factor in their mental illness.

People can and do recover from trauma.​
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 Signs of Abuse

 
​Common effects of trauma include:
  • depression
  • self-harm
  • memory gaps
  • nightmares
  • trouble sleeping
  • having panic attacks and anxiety
  • drinking or taking other drugs
  • binge-eating, purging (throwing up) food or starving
  • feeling like you don’t want to live or you can’t go on with your life
  • repeated experiences of sexual or physical violence
  • feelings of self-hate and low self-esteem
  • fearing people and relationships.

Sometimes when a woman seeks help, the care provider may not link her reactions with abuse-related trauma. Women can be wrongly diagnosed and given unhelpful treatments, including some types of medicines. Often, the care provider sees the trauma effects (e.g., substance use, depression) as the problem, rather than as a result of trauma.

What is abuse-related trauma?

Abuse-related trauma can develop after a person has been hurt and/or neglected, usually in childhood. A woman may have been:
  • sexually or physically abused
  • emotionally abused or neglected.

As a result, the woman may have overwhelming feelings of distress, fear and helplessness.

Traumatic childhood events can change the way a person’s brain and body work. Trauma can affect the person’s emotions, memory, thinking and sense of self. Trauma can also affect relationships.

Women most often develop the effects of trauma if, as children, they felt helpless and trapped by abuse. Often the abuser was a family member or family friend.

One in five women has been sexually abused in childhood. One in two has been sexually assaulted or has experienced attempted sexual assault as an adult. Sexual abuse affects women from all backgrounds.

How do the effects of trauma develop?

Trauma is a normal response to being abused. Many children survive abuse by developing ways of coping that last into adulthood.

Children who are abused may not be able to understand that what is happening to them is wrong. Yet their bodies may register the danger and as adults their bodies still hold the memories of abuse.

As a result, many women who have been abused are easily triggered by things that remind them of the abuse. Their bodies may feel as if they are reliving the trauma, and they may have flashbacks (sudden, vivid and unpleasant memories of the event).

Women cope with painful feelings in different ways. For example, they may develop an eating disorder, misuse alcohol or other drugs, or harm themselves. These behaviours may help women cope for a while. But they often make women feel more isolated and depressed, and can increase anxiety and sleeping problems.

Trauma effects can make a woman feel out of control, or that she is “going crazy.” She may feel either emotionally numb or suddenly alert and panicky. The woman may not realize that she is reacting to things that remind her of the abuse. Many people don’t know that abuse can affect their lives many years later, and do not connect the common effects of trauma to experiences of childhood abuse.

What makes a woman feel worse?

There are many situations that can make a woman’s trauma worse.

Silencing

Some women may try to talk to friends or family members about the abuse. If a woman is told to “just forget it and get on with your life,” she can feel isolated and silenced.


Abusive relationships

If a woman is in a relationship with someone who is emotionally, physically or sexually abusive, it worsens the effects of the original trauma. It also doesn’t allow the woman the safety she needs for healing.

Discrimination

For many women, discrimination is an everyday experience. This causes stress, which is especially hard on a woman who is already traumatized. For women of colour and lesbians, racism and homophobia add to the lack of safety. Poverty often limits a woman’s life choices (e.g., the ability to pay for therapy), adding to the problems.

Blame and shame

Without support and understanding, women may continue to feel guilty and ashamed. This can make them become isolated, feel depressed or harm themselves. Feelings of guilt and shame occur when the person:
  • was blamed for the abuse
  • was pressured to keep the abuse secret
  • wrongly believed that she willingly joined in or “wanted” the abuse
  • told others about her abuse and was not believed.

Trauma and relationships

Because trauma often results when a woman is hurt by another person, it can affect her trust in people:
  • Some women grow up expecting that others will hurt them. As a result, they have trouble developing trust.
  • Some women trust others too easily, and have difficulty judging who is safe. They learned in childhood that some family members they loved and trusted had also abused them. As a result, they learned to hand over their trust, even if the other person didn’t earn or deserve it.
  • Sexual abuse can affect women’s sexuality. A woman may confuse sex with love and care. This is because the abuser gave her attention and affection mainly through sexual contact. Experiences like this may also put a woman at more risk for unwanted or forced sex as an adult.
  • Some women have learned to avoid sex or intimacy, because these experiences may bring up negative feelings and memories connected with past abuse.
 

 Therapies

 
​The trauma therapy model outlines the stages of therapy and the steps that happen in each stage. But different therapists will use different treatment approaches within the model to help you deal with the trauma.

In order to understand what to expect at every stage of the trauma therapy model, you need to know the range of therapeutic approaches your therapist may use. The following example shows how the trauma therapy model can include different approaches to working with clients.

A trauma abuse survivor tells her therapist that she is very anxious and can't sleep. The trauma therapy model says that her anxiety needs to be dealt with and managed before other issues in her life are looked at. The techniques used to help her with her anxiety and sleeplessness will differ depending on what the therapist has been trained in.

One therapist may use a treatment approach called cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT). Another therapist may use other approaches, such as eye movement desensitization reprocessing (EMDR), hypnotherapy or guided imagery. These aim to help the woman feel calmer and less overwhelmed by her emotions. A psychiatrist may prescribe medications to help her sleep and reduce her anxiety. These treatment approaches are all described below and in the glossary.

Most skilled therapists are trained in several different types of treatment, which they may use in combination or alone. But all treatment approaches should follow the stages of the trauma therapy model. Effective therapists will adapt the different treatment approaches to suit you best.

Here is a brief description of the main therapeutic approaches:

Psychoeducation

Psychoeducation teaches abuse survivors about different psychological processes and their effects. For example, the therapist may explain that what you are feeling and doing is typical of reactions that other survivors also describe; after learning that your feelings are normal, you may begin to feel less isolated or “crazy.” Your therapist may also explain the effects of trauma in both the short term and long term, and how trauma can affect your body, your emotions and how you develop.

The therapist may also give you information about abuse and neglect.

All of the information isn't given at one time, but throughout your therapy, depending on what you are discussing and dealing with at the time.

Cognitive-behavioural therapy

Cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) focuses on helping the client become aware of how thoughts, attitudes, expectations and beliefs can contribute to feelings of unhappiness. The client learns how certain beliefs, which may have been developed in the past to deal with difficult or painful experiences, are no longer helpful or true in the current situation. The client can then try to change the behaviours, thoughts and beliefs that are no longer helpful.

Often, CBT involves homework or written exercises. For instance, the client may do various written exercises in which she explores the accuracy of certain negative beliefs (e.g., the mistaken belief that she somehow responsible for her own abuse) by questioning or challenging evidence to support her perspective.

CBT can also involve what is called “exposure techniques.” This is particularly helpful for people with simple post-traumatic stress; that is, those who have been traumatized by a single event. Exposure therapy involves gradually exposing the person to the feared situation until she becomes desensitized, or no longer reactive to what originally created so much fear.

CBT can also involve helping the client to develop coping strategies to reduce her anxiety. This may include breathing retraining, relaxation and imagery or visualization exercises.

Eye movement desensitization reprocessing

Eye movement desensitization reprocessing (EMDR) is a new psychotherapy used to treat responses to traumatic experiences, such as anxiety, guilt, depression, panic, sleep disturbance and flashbacks. EMDR is not a complete therapy system, but is a technique that can be used within a therapeutic approach to treat trauma.
The idea behind EMDR is that people who have experienced trauma or other difficult experiences have stored memories without adequately processing them. EMDR is a therapeutic approach that accelerates the integration of traumatic memories. EMDR stimulates the brain's natural information processing normally and become integrated.
Traumatic memories are believed to be “locked” in the nervous system. As a result, various triggers can cause the person to re-experience the original traumatic images, sensations and thoughts at a later time.

Because the left hemisphere (section) of the brain helps to create meaning and organize memories, left hemisphere processes can help relieve distress. However, traumatic memories are believed to be stored in the right hemisphere and so cannot be processed by left hemisphere processes.

Side-to-side stimulation (for example, through eye movements) seems to unlock memories by allowing the processing of information between the right and left hemispheres of the brain. In the way the person processes the traumatic memory, which had been “locked” into one side of the brain, and balance is restored. This process is thought to be similar to what happens during dreaming and REM sleep.
Note: EMDR can only be done by a properly trained clinician and is used as part of a larger treatment plan.

Medication

Many people with post-traumatic stress find that medication gives them relief from sleeplessness, depression, panic attacks and other reactions. Psychologists, social workers and other non-medically trained therapists cannot prescribe medication. So if you are considering medication, you will need to be referred to a medical doctor or psychiatrist. The doctor should be trained in understanding post-traumatic stress as well as in psychotropic drugs (the medications used to treat mental health issues). Medication can help you manage some of the effects of trauma. But it is not a complete solution, and is best used along with therapy.

Body-psychotherapy

Trauma affects the body and the mind, and a good therapy method should deal with both. Body-psychotherapy is a form of therapy that deals with physiological reactions to trauma. Some body techniques do not involve touch, and are suited to people who are uncomfortable with being touched in therapy.

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy is a type of body-psychotherapy that helps survivors deal with disturbing bodily reactions. It can help you manage and disconnect physical feelings from trauma-based emotions. Sensorimotor Psychotherapy uses the body (rather than thoughts or feelings) as the main way to deal with trauma. In turn, this helps emotional and mental well-being.

Therapists using this technique will sometimes touch clients, but only when clients give consent.​
 

 Finding Treatment

 

​Why healing is important

Healing is important because it:
 
  • allows women to feel more in control of their lives and entitled to their own thoughts and feelings
  • allows women to develop closer relationships with others
  • helps women to free themselves from the traumatic past; they no longer relive it in nightmares or in their daily lives whenever they feel afraid or powerless
  • can help relieve pain and depression
  • can help women experience their bodies and feelings again.
 
 
 
 
 


Seeking help is important

 
Women can and do recover from abuse-related trauma. In the first stages of trauma therapy, women learn more effective and less harmful ways to deal with the overwhelming pain they feel. Therapy also helps women cope with effects such as flashbacks, panic and self-harm.

 
When you look for help, make sure you are comfortable with a potential therapist’s experience and approach. Ask him or her questions. See the CAMH booklet Women, Abuse and Trauma Therapy to learn more about trauma and trauma therapy, and for advice on finding a therapist. Finding suitable treatment may take time, effort and patience—but it’s important to keep looking.

 

Where to find help

 
If you are concerned about abuse-related trauma, there are people who can help you or help you find support. Contact:
 

  • women’s health centres
  • community health centres
  • therapists in private practice (including psychologists, psychiatrists and social workers)
  • sexual assault centres
  • crisis lines for women who have been abused
  • YWCA
  • women’s shelters
  • spiritual centres
  • family service agencies
  • family doctors.
Treatment and support are available for people living with drug use problems and addictions:

Ontario Mental Health Helpline (open 24/7 for treatment anywhere in Ontario)​
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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